All of my blogging years have consisted of dealing with negative comments. Whether it be YouTube or Facebook, someone always has something negative and irrelevant to say. Sometimes they didn’t like the content and other times they didn’t like the way I spoke.
Looking around, I notice that many other bloggers (or people even remotely public) deal with this on a much larger scale. But how are we to respond to it?
Fortunately, WordPress is a generally kind community that is full of loving people but what about the few that aren’t?
Should we ignore it or engage with in it? If we engage, how do we deal with it in a way that doesn’t start a brawl?
Although we don’t generally like to receive negatively on our blogs, sometimes we do and it’s up to us to us to calm the fire before it becomes wildfire, yielding results that can impact us negatively.
Although ignoring stupidity is sometimes necessary, other times it is pure ignorance and misunderstanding. In these cases, it may be better to bite the bullet and have a difficult but respectful conversation.
Is it possible? Sure.
Is it difficult? Absolutely. But sometimes these conversations are a necessary part of growth.
One persons harsh words can be the uncomfortable truth that needs to be addressed.
How will you respond to negative feedback? Let me know in the comments.
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Thanks so much all! Your support and advice much appreciated.
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Anitaelise, reading his words I could feel the anger rising up. I agree with Fairen that after replying a couple of times I would have stopped. He is goading you and I don’t think he will stop. It seems like troll behaviour. I haven’t had to deal with anything like this before, but I think you handled yourself well.
His whining about how victimized men are, reminds me of white folks who feel they’re victims of reverse racism.
Your poem is lovely!
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Thanks, I have learned a lot with that interaction 🙂
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Thanks for this, I am struggling with dealing with this right now. I recently posted a poem about happiness, family and equality and got a comment from a blogger who thought it was about a battle between genders. I am quite taken aback by the points he brought up and unable to understand how he thought they related to my post. Not sure if I should respond to such comments like I did or just ignore them. The post is called http://anitaelise.com/2020/10/17/wanna/ Would appreciate any advice from you or any other blogger who has the time to check it out.
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Interesting. I can take a look 🙂
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I think that how you respond is entirely your decision. 🙂 Personally, I would have responded to the first comment or two and then left it alone. I am okay having an open dialogue with differing opinions but I do not generally like to engage in debates.
I’m curious to see how others would have handled it
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Thanks, yes I think that’s a good idea.
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Hi, first of all I found your poem great – About the negative comments I agree with Fairen – Responding once or twice should have been enough, We can have different points of view, but we should never be rude. All the best
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Thanks, blogging is a learning experience 🙂
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I find WordPress to be a supportive community, so I’ve not had any problems here. That being said, abuse should be ignored or blocked. Whereas negative comments should be answered without animosity, whilst being honest and genuine.
Great post!
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Thanks Lorraine, I appreciate when people criticize me properly, but when they use “bad” language (for instance “you´re a son of a b….”) I delete 😦 – Have a great week 🙂
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I agree, Lorraine! Negative comments can be an opportunity for honest dialogue. I’m glad to hear that WordPress has been a kind platform.
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Hi,
Fortunately I don´t get many negative comments, but what do I do when people are rude? Sometimes I ignore, but if they use offensive language I just delete the comments, but so far so good 🙂
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I agree. On WordPress, the comments have been mainly good so far but there is a line were we may need to delete bad comments.
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